Have I been dating anyone? Nope. I am too busy, honestly. Would I love someone to wine and dine me? Of course. But right now, I just don't have the energy or time to spend on someone. No men are pursuing me. I am not pursuing anyone. I don't want my time wasted nor do I want to waste theirs. Seriously, dating is exhausting. I am no longer on any dating sites. I have no time for it. Last night I had a minor meltdown. About being single and not knowing where or when my life is going, who I will be with, wanting to leave my hometown, jobs, etc. Happens like once a month, if ya know what I mean. But, that's not what I want to talk about.
Have y'all heard of Andy Stanley of North Point Community Church?
I hadn't either til last night. Someone told me about his "Love, Sex & Dating" series. I've spent all morning listening to part 1- The Right Person Myth.
*Even if you aren't a Christian, this is a very good series for those who are single.*
Andy asks this important question:
Are you who the person you are looking for is looking for?
Powerful question, right?
We (single people) shouldn't be asking how to FIND the right person, but how to BECOME the right person. Relationships take work and I think a lot of us forget that.
It's a 4 part series, I highly suggest listening to them.
It's a 4 part series, I highly suggest listening to them.
xoxo.
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I love this!! I'm definitely going to have to listen to this series. Thanks for sharing!
God has the right person out there for you-You will find him!!!! I love that quote from the Notebook :)
Thanks for sharing the series! I'm going to check it out!
I've got this bookmarked for my pals--I think you're so right though: relationships take so much work and you really must become the person to find your other half ;) much love! xoxo {av}
Well said Michelle!
Love this! I have to say that love finds you when you're not looking - I reconnected with a wonderful guy who I knew in high school and couldn't be happier. I think he could be the one. <3
You'll find him when the time is right. :)
Have a lovely weekend! <3
As a guy, and a man of God, there is something that I have learned over the years of being away from home for so long, and not having that special someone to come home to. There will be a time and place that you will know when you will find that person that God wants you to be with. It will happen at a time in your life you least expect it, and it will be something small. Like a long time friend, or some one from your past. But know this, don't go out and look for him, cause He will be looking for you.
i'm always so independent and lately ive been feeling so sad and lonely and tonight i finally had a huge meltdown. as soon as i get on blogger, i seem to be finding posts like this....seriously, thank you.
it's SO true. being single can suck sometimes, but the thing is, you get to do everything YOU want to do. and chase YOUR dreams... whatever they may be : ) hang in there!
Im definitly going to be checking that series out! I hear he's amazing ive heard only one or two snippets of his sermons but hes great! such a powerful quote to think about!
Michelle, that is such an awesome perspective. My best friend had a rough time being single when she finally realized it was her chance to work on herself, just her and God. I watched her become an amazing woman and someone just walked into her life that saw her for all she is. God has the perfect timing but we have to make sure we are doing our part.
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Love this- I am going to share this with my sister and best friend who I've just talked to about similar stuff!
oh that's a great question! and i love andy stanley - he used to speak at my college every now and then. good stuff!
About that once a month meltdown over being single... I have monthly meltdowns over career questions and being in a new place. haha
On the being single part. I seriously met my husband when I was hardly interested in dating anyone ever again. I was enjoying living in a new place, and I was making new friends... and then I read "He's Just Not That Into You".... and then *bam* I meet my husband. Seriously.
You will meet the right guy.... and what you said about becoming the right person is so true!! God is just waiting until you're ready for the greatest guy you've ever dreamed about! (: He's out there, and you're both getting closer to meeting... I just know it. He's out there... you're out there... now let God do some work in each of you before you meet.
Oooh, there is another really good podcast series on Love/Relationships from a conference here in Portland. (Loveology). Good stuff! xoxo
That looks like an amazing series! If I was single I would totally go to something like that and it's even good for those of us who are close to being married!
New follower to your blog and loving it! Hope your weekend is going fabulous.
i've read that quote before and had it in my journal before meeting Cam.. love it.
Something I've thought about -- in retrospect of course -- is that God's timing is literally perfect. Had I met my love when I wanted to, our relationship and now marriage would NOT be the same in all its beauty, maybe wouldn't be here at all. He knows what He's doing and His time frame is so above ours. I think He makes us wait because He loves us. I wish I had considered that more while I was waiting :) but now all I can do is share it and pray it's consolation!
Love this post. I'm not dating anyone right now, but someone is interested and investing time in getting to know me, and I really should ask myself that question first before I get involved in a relationship!!! Thanks for sharing your heart and the link :)
Hubs and I went to Andy's "Buckhead Church" until we got hitched...LOVE that series! He has so many good ones!!!
best movie ever. people tell me my hub looks like him (ryan gosling). ohhh how LUCKY i am :)
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