Get to da choppa!

I hope you read my title in your best Arnold Schwarzenegger voice.

As soon as we got back from our vacation, the Hubs was thrown back into training exercises. From here on out, I will rarely see much of him. Such is Army life. Anyway, he knows my love for aviation and thinks I am a huge loser for thinking it's 'pretty freaking awesome' that he gets to play this week so he has sent me some awesome pictures. Enjoy!

His Mistresses

It's time to get real...

My husband has not one, but three mistresses. Yep, no sugar coating that.

 He spends money on them, takes them on special dates, feeds them, loves on them, bathes them. It's pretty darn serious y'all. I've actually met all of them and well, they are pretty sweet.


Jessica:

Nichole:

Sally:

Secretly, I want Sally. Technically, she is now mine.

What's yours is mine babe!! {insert evil laugh} I love marriage!


Is your man into his cars? If not, what is the hobby he spends time/money on?

A better plan

April 2012. I took a huge leap of Faith last year and hopped on a plane to meet/visit a special someone in Hawaii that I had grown very close to over the past 8 months. My best friend. I was scared but excited. Nervous but confident. Giddy but wanting to vomit {in a good way of course, ya?}. What I didn't know was that two months later we would be eloping on a beach, committing ourselves to forever.

Many of you might know of Mrs. Sarah Tucker. She is such an amazing woman. She posted this a couple days ago and it just hit home with me.

"Someone wrote me this morning about a broken heart. I have the biggest heart for anyone going through heart break. I had my heart broken into pieces when I was 21. And if I got what I wanted at 21, I would be miserable today. Heart break hurts worse than open heart surgery. And I know both. But had I not have gone through that I wouldn't have such a full heart today. And if anything I went through it to tell this girl that Gods plan is better. Pray for your future husband and I promise God will knock it out of the park." -Sarah Tucker

I went through a lot before meeting my husband, more than I think most women go through. But, if I hadn't... I wouldn't have been the woman I am today, the woman my husband needed/needs me to be. I'd be miserable. 

God knew what he was doing.

Clothing Battle

Hubby vs Wifey

Basically this battle all started last Friday, on our date to Chili's. He flat out said that when we first started talking that 'my style was so weird to him but now he is use to it and that I don't dress my age'. WTF. 'Ohhhh really? How is MY style weird?' I defensively responded to the man who thinks Call of Duty shirts and a camo ball cap are appropriate attire to an Easter service or on a date.

Some of you may remember Raven's post and Jenni's post about dressing for men/their husbands. I loved that post, and I even asked the Hubs his thoughts after reading them a while back. I guess he didn't really want to hurt my feelings (or get punched in the face) so he just said 'it's different' but he likes it. Well now that we are a bit more comfortable with each other and after me insisting he be completely honest... he told me how he really felt! I was pretty bummed to find that the clothing I loved wasn't always his favorite as I want to be sexy in his eyes, to dress for him.

Note: I am growing out my hair mainly for him because of his love for long hair; I curl my hair more because he loves the way it looks on me. The things we do for love :)

 

Let's go back to our fight on Sunday morning. It is a fight to ask him to change or put on something 'nice'. He wanted to pair these nice light red shorts with a bright green and black polo and got mad at me for telling him it doesn't match. Most days and most places, I could care less about what he wears. I don't think I am that picky about it, really. Sunday he wanted to wear those red shorts with a blue Hawaiian shirt, again I said it didn't match and made suggestions. Then he wanted to wear a Florida Gator shirt with Khakis and a ball cap. I said no way buddy. That's when all hell broke loose... screaming, slamming doors, ya know the whole shabang. He ended up wearing what I originally suggested. #iwin Off to brunch we went with Kait and her beau.

He never knew what maxi dresses were and I was very devastated to find out he doesn't really like them, like at all, and I wear them practically daily and have like 8 of them. #cuethescreams He calls my maxi skirt and my Minnetoka fringe boots my hippie gear. And get this...Saturday night we went to go see a movie so I just threw on a simple Target tee (love them) and some jeans. He went bananas over how sexy and hot I looked, grabbed my butt and all and said that THIS was dressing my age.... seriously? Basically he likes the 'girl next door' look. Simple but chic. 

Today we set out on a mission to Target. One our way there I asked him about specific outfits, shirts, etc that he liked/disliked of mine. I found out he loves to see my curves and legs. He loves it when I wear jeans and a tee. He hates maxi dresses because he doesn't care to see just my feet. He thinks polka dots are set out to give men strokes. I really wish I could have had a recorder while walking through the clothing sections. We went to my section of Target and I asked him things and had him pick out some tee's that he liked for me. Then we set out to the men's section. We picked out some polos together, figured out what he likes and doesn't like, and got some tee's for him as well. (He acts like such a girl, btw, it's rather hilarious.)

It was a successful trip and we finally found some common ground.

Is your husband the same way? Do you dress for him?

Wknd Shenanigans

{Jet, set, go}


Hey hey hey! 

In short, my visit home was lovely and much needed. I didn't realize how bad my island fever was. 7 months is way too long, idk how people live here! Anyway, I got to eat all the food Hawaii doesn't have and I had the privilege of attending two weddings in one day. Both were beautiful. I love celebrating love. Would've rather had my boys with me though, I missed them dearly. Funny how that works, ya? Some days you itch to get away from them and then the moment you leave you are miserable. Husband confessed to implanting me with some device to cause this disturbance. He would. Crazy man. Save Me.

Linking up for the first time with Sami's Shenanigans!

+ I spent my Friday brainstorming the complete re-do of the ol blog. I am stoked. I am working with a super talented, super amazing blog designer and because of that it will probably take a month til the reveal. Get excited y'all. This girl is making a come back!!!!!

+ In case you haven't heard, Google Reader is dying. I'm on Bloglovin, which I am mad that I have just now decided to join. I like it much better.

+ I have finally finished brainstorming tattoo #9. This one is going to be a pretty big deal and one of my favorites probably. I can't wait to get it, yet I have to wait. Money doesn't grow on trees and I am still pretty nervous about the location and visibility of this one. Let's just say it involves roses, a bible verse, and my forearm. Eeek!

+ Jax and I got our yoga on this past Friday. I am trying to do more of this (and at home workouts), even though it (yoga) bores the crap outta me. It's just so good for my aging body.

Downward dog? I mean....how hilarious is that?! He loves that mat. LOVE.


+ I'm not sure if I have shared this on here or not, but I am a part time nanny to two adorable Hawaiian 1 year old twins. They are a handful. I had no clue what it really was like to have children. My mind has been scarred opened and my baby fever cured... for the time being. I love them like they are my own. My favorite things: laughs, giggles, cuddles. Anyway, I spend my weekend with these kiddos. I went to bed early, woke up way too early, and thus I am sleep deprived. It's 7pm Sunday night as I write this and I am aching for my bed. If you have children, consider me awed, you supermom you!

 {peace}


+ My lilies bloomed! They are beautiful.

+ Ended the weekend with this. I hadn't seen a rainbow in awhile. Made me smile.

+ How handsome is he?? Love my Soldier.

Cheers from the Rainbow State!

How was your weekend??

Life Lately

Aloha!

Have you been reading Jenni, of Story of My Life's Advice for Bloggers posts? If you haven't, it's pretty great. Jenni is one of my favorite bloggers. And well, I've always dreamed of having a popular, beautiful blog like hers. Today's advice hit home for me. Lately, or more like almost a year has gone by that I've had little interest in blogging. I don't like being 'real'. It's scary to put my feelings or what I am going through out here for everyone (more specifically- family, stalkers, ex boyfriends) to read. I tend to prefer to keep most things, the deep things to myself.

Anyway, it's time to talk. I need to talk, vent, spill my guts, etc. This is a very wordy post. Whether you choose to read it or not, it won't hurt my feelings. Trust me.
 

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Things have been tough. Emotionally tough. I really have started to think I need to see a counselor. My husband doesn't understand. I constantly feel overwhelmed. I'm lacking major sleep because I can't shut my brain off. One would think that moving to 'paradise' would be all rainbows and sunshine...that I should be happy?! Well you see, we are faced with life amongst all the rainbows and sunshine (actually its rainy season right now...boo). 

Army/Milspouse Life:

 1-Money. It's expensive to live here. Sure, the Army gives you a certain amount of money but, when the other spouse can't find a job to save her life and you've got student loans to be paid every month it gets tight. Having no job then makes one feel useless. You live paycheck to paycheck. You have to say no to doing fun things on your list. It gets sad or old sometimes. I loathe money issues. I feel bad for even saying that, like I'm selfish and ungrateful but it weighs on me, constantly. I use to think I was simple, that I could merely enjoy simple things. I guess I don't?

2- Friends. Having little to no friends here has certainly not made things easier. You know those days where you really need girl time/time away from your hubby because he is driving you nuts? Ya... I just go to the beach, which isn't so bad but girl time is always good for the soul. Sometimes I just end up calling my mom. Part of it I think is my fault. I knew marrying into Army that military spouse friends would come and go due to PCSing so I chose to not allow myself any super close friendships. I can't just take a road trip...I'm on an island. Sure I could fly home... If I wanted to spend $800-1000 on a flight all the way across the US. (FL is home). Again, it's not easy.

3- Our Marriage. It's taken a serious backbone. As I said a few blog posts ago, it's been tough. It's been better lately actually, but could use some working on. We would like to see a marriage counselor but of course his work schedule doesn't allow it. He doesn't always get a lunch break. He is in bed by 7 every night, up at 4:30am. So, The Army does marriage retreats, which is pretty cool and before we got married we had talked about taking advantage of them. We've tried twice to go and Hubby can't get out of what he is doing...they won't let him. There's an awesome spouse day next week. Something I've been wanting to do.... Do you think his unit will allow the men to participate with their wives on this day?? Nope. The Army is not all about making marriages strong. When your in the Army, it's #1. Not you, not your spouse, not your kids. I knew I'd be marrying the Army when I married my Hubby. I just didn't realize it would be this bad/hard.

4- Plans. You can't hope for or plan anything in the Army. My husband has missed his twin brothers wedding and now will be missing his best friends wedding. There's a looming deployment and everything has been changing lately. It keeps getting pushed back and even has been talk of none at all. I can't get excited about that because they could easily up and change their minds, for the billionth time. This pushes back our plans of what I'd do while he is deployed and for seeing family (block leave). Everything is up in the air and I don't like it one bit. 

*Military life is different for every branch, rank, unit, and base. These are my feelings and opinions.*

School: for those who don't know, I am taking advantage of being a military spouse and getting a cert/license for Medical Assistant and possibly Pharmacy Tech. For Free. Awesome. It's taken a backbone a lot lately. I've had zero motivation. Like right now, I should be doing my schoolwork. 

Gym: my drug, my stress reliever. I can't keep a regular schedule. I use the gym on base because its free. But I only go during certain times because of how crowded it can get. Sometimes I'm not able to go or I have no motivation. Lately, I've been going maybe 2-3 times a week. I wish I could have a regular schedule again. I'm getting rounded and I don't like it one bit.

God: oh man. I don't like saying this but He has been shoved very far on the list. I mean...look where he is on this blog post??!! Dead last. It makes me sad, it does. But all this stuff, above, takes over my mind, my days. I'm beginning to think I wouldn't feel this way if I put wholeheartedly my trust back in him. To take care of me and my husband and all our worries. I really need a bible study group. Or to really just get my act together. I'd give anything for a week away to reboot my mind/body/soul.

Are you a Military spouse? Was your first year married to the Military like this? 

*I don't post this for sympathy, that's not what I am looking for. I simply want to know that this is normal or that someone else has experienced these things and has come out the other side of the storm. That they've made it through these military life obstacles. 

Much love from Hawaii.

xoxo.

My Valentine

{our love story}

I choose you for life.

I promise you my deepest love, my fullest devotion, my tenderest care, through the pressures of the present and the uncertainties of the future. I promise to be faithful to you. I promise to love you, to commit to you, and support you. I pledge to respect your unique talents and abilities, to lend you strength for all your dreams. You have shown me what love feels like and for that I thank you. You are everything I need and at this moment I know all of my prayers have been answered and that all of my dreams have come true. I praise God for you, for all of your love and constant friendship. I know that our love is heaven sent and I promise to be here forever and always. From this day forward, you shall not walk alone. My heart will be your shelter and my arms will be your home. As I have given you my hand to hold. I give you my life to keep.

Forever & ever.

Life Lately

Aloha!

Sorry I went MIA for a lil bit there!

I got a lil holiday job on top of Scentsy events!! I've been a busy gal. 

Here's my life lately via Instagram! (@michabella4)

{Late night of partying. Jax couldn't hang.}

 

{Another Scentsy event!}

  

{Chasing rainbows}

 MUCH needed date night!

{Documenting my first casserole! Thanks to Skinnytaste!}

{My favorite soldier. We enjoyed a free meal courtesy of California Pizza Kitchen.}

Hubby's parents come into town this weekend! I am so stoked. I really am a lucky girl to have some pretty amazing in-laws. We are also going to have a house full of people over for Thanksgiving. 

I love the Holidays and am so thankful to have family in town at least for Thanksgiving because Christmas will be tough without our families. 

How have y'all been?

Getting ready for the holidays?!

xoxo.

Friday Favorites!

HAPPY FRIDAY!


*First time carving pumpkins with my Hubby!

*This cute lil guy, Whoot, landed on my doorstep last night. I am in love. He is my FAVORITE, #1 Scentsy Warmer!

*Meal planning! The time to sit down and do it sucks... but when it comes to making dinner and grocery shopping... oh it's a lifesaver!!


*New blog friends. Adore these girls so much!

*My sweet baby boy

HAVE A GREAT WEEKEND!

Freaky Freaky

*Hope my East Coast peeps are safe/staying safe through Sandy!*

Just a few of my favorite things:

Jax's first time at the beach and he LOVED it!

 

 NORTH SHORE FAMILY DAY! LOVE MY BOYS!

 ALL THINGS PUMPKIN SPICE!

JUST ANOTHER BEAUTIFUL SCENTSY WEEKEND!

 

SNEAK PEEK! NOVEMBERS WARMER & SCENT OF THE MONTH!

 

Not one of my favorite things: a Tsunami warning, sirens and all. Creepy! But hey, I survived my first Tsunami! No damages done to the state of Hawaii, thank goodness. 

HOW WAS YOUR WEEKEND?

CURRENTLY

 

The past week has looked like this. Hubby got diagnosed with Malaria. It wasn't pretty. 

But he is finally feeling better! Thank God! It's nice to have my Hubby back.

 

My sweet boy arrives THIS FRIDAY!!!! 

Our lil family will finally be complete again!

reading I haven't read much lately... Basically stuff about Malaria. 

writing lots of addresses for mailing Scentsy stuff out! & a grocery list.

listening to Hubby flip through a million stations (he can never keep it at one, must be a guy thing) and him screaming that for some reason there is only one football game showing on TV.

thinking about how busy this week is going to be, but Friday is going to be the best day.

smelling my coffee...mmmm. One of the best smells ever.

wishing to figure out my life. I've been feeling useless lately. I hate not being able to get a job to help with getting us to be debt free from my student loans. 

hoping to visit a pumpkin patch today; for a safe flight for my baby Jax; for good Scentsy parties this weekend.

wearing pj's :)

loving that Hubby is feeling better; my Hubby; the gloomy sky

wanting all things Fall; to wear a scarf and boots but that is just silly here in Hawaii

needing to go grocery shopping; to get outside because I am going stir crazy from being couped up in a hospital and our home.

feeling almost happy; rested
clicking through the Air Force officer career website.... more on that later.

HAVE A LOVELY WEEK!!!