Clothing Battle

Hubby vs Wifey

Basically this battle all started last Friday, on our date to Chili's. He flat out said that when we first started talking that 'my style was so weird to him but now he is use to it and that I don't dress my age'. WTF. 'Ohhhh really? How is MY style weird?' I defensively responded to the man who thinks Call of Duty shirts and a camo ball cap are appropriate attire to an Easter service or on a date.

Some of you may remember Raven's post and Jenni's post about dressing for men/their husbands. I loved that post, and I even asked the Hubs his thoughts after reading them a while back. I guess he didn't really want to hurt my feelings (or get punched in the face) so he just said 'it's different' but he likes it. Well now that we are a bit more comfortable with each other and after me insisting he be completely honest... he told me how he really felt! I was pretty bummed to find that the clothing I loved wasn't always his favorite as I want to be sexy in his eyes, to dress for him.

Note: I am growing out my hair mainly for him because of his love for long hair; I curl my hair more because he loves the way it looks on me. The things we do for love :)

 

Let's go back to our fight on Sunday morning. It is a fight to ask him to change or put on something 'nice'. He wanted to pair these nice light red shorts with a bright green and black polo and got mad at me for telling him it doesn't match. Most days and most places, I could care less about what he wears. I don't think I am that picky about it, really. Sunday he wanted to wear those red shorts with a blue Hawaiian shirt, again I said it didn't match and made suggestions. Then he wanted to wear a Florida Gator shirt with Khakis and a ball cap. I said no way buddy. That's when all hell broke loose... screaming, slamming doors, ya know the whole shabang. He ended up wearing what I originally suggested. #iwin Off to brunch we went with Kait and her beau.

He never knew what maxi dresses were and I was very devastated to find out he doesn't really like them, like at all, and I wear them practically daily and have like 8 of them. #cuethescreams He calls my maxi skirt and my Minnetoka fringe boots my hippie gear. And get this...Saturday night we went to go see a movie so I just threw on a simple Target tee (love them) and some jeans. He went bananas over how sexy and hot I looked, grabbed my butt and all and said that THIS was dressing my age.... seriously? Basically he likes the 'girl next door' look. Simple but chic. 

Today we set out on a mission to Target. One our way there I asked him about specific outfits, shirts, etc that he liked/disliked of mine. I found out he loves to see my curves and legs. He loves it when I wear jeans and a tee. He hates maxi dresses because he doesn't care to see just my feet. He thinks polka dots are set out to give men strokes. I really wish I could have had a recorder while walking through the clothing sections. We went to my section of Target and I asked him things and had him pick out some tee's that he liked for me. Then we set out to the men's section. We picked out some polos together, figured out what he likes and doesn't like, and got some tee's for him as well. (He acts like such a girl, btw, it's rather hilarious.)

It was a successful trip and we finally found some common ground.

Is your husband the same way? Do you dress for him?

Life Lately

Aloha!

Have you been reading Jenni, of Story of My Life's Advice for Bloggers posts? If you haven't, it's pretty great. Jenni is one of my favorite bloggers. And well, I've always dreamed of having a popular, beautiful blog like hers. Today's advice hit home for me. Lately, or more like almost a year has gone by that I've had little interest in blogging. I don't like being 'real'. It's scary to put my feelings or what I am going through out here for everyone (more specifically- family, stalkers, ex boyfriends) to read. I tend to prefer to keep most things, the deep things to myself.

Anyway, it's time to talk. I need to talk, vent, spill my guts, etc. This is a very wordy post. Whether you choose to read it or not, it won't hurt my feelings. Trust me.
 

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Things have been tough. Emotionally tough. I really have started to think I need to see a counselor. My husband doesn't understand. I constantly feel overwhelmed. I'm lacking major sleep because I can't shut my brain off. One would think that moving to 'paradise' would be all rainbows and sunshine...that I should be happy?! Well you see, we are faced with life amongst all the rainbows and sunshine (actually its rainy season right now...boo). 

Army/Milspouse Life:

 1-Money. It's expensive to live here. Sure, the Army gives you a certain amount of money but, when the other spouse can't find a job to save her life and you've got student loans to be paid every month it gets tight. Having no job then makes one feel useless. You live paycheck to paycheck. You have to say no to doing fun things on your list. It gets sad or old sometimes. I loathe money issues. I feel bad for even saying that, like I'm selfish and ungrateful but it weighs on me, constantly. I use to think I was simple, that I could merely enjoy simple things. I guess I don't?

2- Friends. Having little to no friends here has certainly not made things easier. You know those days where you really need girl time/time away from your hubby because he is driving you nuts? Ya... I just go to the beach, which isn't so bad but girl time is always good for the soul. Sometimes I just end up calling my mom. Part of it I think is my fault. I knew marrying into Army that military spouse friends would come and go due to PCSing so I chose to not allow myself any super close friendships. I can't just take a road trip...I'm on an island. Sure I could fly home... If I wanted to spend $800-1000 on a flight all the way across the US. (FL is home). Again, it's not easy.

3- Our Marriage. It's taken a serious backbone. As I said a few blog posts ago, it's been tough. It's been better lately actually, but could use some working on. We would like to see a marriage counselor but of course his work schedule doesn't allow it. He doesn't always get a lunch break. He is in bed by 7 every night, up at 4:30am. So, The Army does marriage retreats, which is pretty cool and before we got married we had talked about taking advantage of them. We've tried twice to go and Hubby can't get out of what he is doing...they won't let him. There's an awesome spouse day next week. Something I've been wanting to do.... Do you think his unit will allow the men to participate with their wives on this day?? Nope. The Army is not all about making marriages strong. When your in the Army, it's #1. Not you, not your spouse, not your kids. I knew I'd be marrying the Army when I married my Hubby. I just didn't realize it would be this bad/hard.

4- Plans. You can't hope for or plan anything in the Army. My husband has missed his twin brothers wedding and now will be missing his best friends wedding. There's a looming deployment and everything has been changing lately. It keeps getting pushed back and even has been talk of none at all. I can't get excited about that because they could easily up and change their minds, for the billionth time. This pushes back our plans of what I'd do while he is deployed and for seeing family (block leave). Everything is up in the air and I don't like it one bit. 

*Military life is different for every branch, rank, unit, and base. These are my feelings and opinions.*

School: for those who don't know, I am taking advantage of being a military spouse and getting a cert/license for Medical Assistant and possibly Pharmacy Tech. For Free. Awesome. It's taken a backbone a lot lately. I've had zero motivation. Like right now, I should be doing my schoolwork. 

Gym: my drug, my stress reliever. I can't keep a regular schedule. I use the gym on base because its free. But I only go during certain times because of how crowded it can get. Sometimes I'm not able to go or I have no motivation. Lately, I've been going maybe 2-3 times a week. I wish I could have a regular schedule again. I'm getting rounded and I don't like it one bit.

God: oh man. I don't like saying this but He has been shoved very far on the list. I mean...look where he is on this blog post??!! Dead last. It makes me sad, it does. But all this stuff, above, takes over my mind, my days. I'm beginning to think I wouldn't feel this way if I put wholeheartedly my trust back in him. To take care of me and my husband and all our worries. I really need a bible study group. Or to really just get my act together. I'd give anything for a week away to reboot my mind/body/soul.

Are you a Military spouse? Was your first year married to the Military like this? 

*I don't post this for sympathy, that's not what I am looking for. I simply want to know that this is normal or that someone else has experienced these things and has come out the other side of the storm. That they've made it through these military life obstacles. 

Much love from Hawaii.

xoxo.

Surviving the First Week

Hubby (Soldier Boy) and I have survived our first week of living together!!

Hubby and I have never lived with someone we were dating, so this is all very new to us. 

Hubby didn't grow up with sisters so pray for him as he gets use to being around a female 24/7. Hehe. Luckily I had brothers to help me get use to living with men.

I am very use to being alone. My shower time has become my 'me' time.

My first dinner was a success! Hooray!

Getting use to no microwave and AC units in the windows of each room is a challenge, but having a gas stove is pretty dang awesome.

Shopping together, at first, was stressful. But now it's kind of fun. 

Getting use to how we grew up doing different things has been tough. I am use to one way, he is use to another. We've just gotta meet in the middle somewhere.

Hubby is awesome on the grill.

He takes such good care of me. I truly am so lucky.

Continue to pray for us!

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Our mini honeymoon to Maui was amazing!  

I can't wait to share some pictures with y'all a must-do in Maui.

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Living in Hawaii:

I don't like that the area we live in doesn't recycle. Need to get our own bins and do it ourselves.

I'm kind of glad I don't have a car right now because traffic here is crazy and the roads are confusing, and I can't pronounce them! Haha. I don't even know how to say the road we live on.

Right now I have my coffee in hand...that I made with our new Keurig (thanks for the gift cards friends and family!!!) ...and I didn't make it overflow! Woohoo, pretty proud of myself. 

Hubby is at work, so today consists of lots of organizing (the man has clothes EVERYWHERE) and cleaning, browsing for jobs, beds, and a car. I don't like having just one income, even though it's been nice to not work.

Slowly but surely our town home is becoming a home.

I miss my baby boy, Jax, so much. I tear up every time Hubby mentions him or I think about him. He doesn't get to come to the island til the end of October. This is the only amount of home-sickness I have had. 

It's nice to be back on here! I've missed y'all!